Now, many of the regular HH onliners probably will not recognise my username as I do normally post in C&T, but I just feel that this is something that everybody can relate too.Things go wrong, sometimes it is our fault, on some occasions the horses but also things just do not work out the way we planned. No matter how much training, preparation and determination sometimes, for what ever reason, it does not workout. Now I can understand that many people will be reading this and wondering, well yes, that is the name of the game, what is the reason for this post? A question that I will do my best to answer below.So take me, early 20's riding since 5, always thought I could do it, not necessarily stylish but practical. That was until things started to go wrong, my confidence dropped and suddenly after jumping clear rounds at 1.10/1.15 I was struggling at 90. I became so focused on the minority, started to talk myself into self doubt, comparing myself to people far younger and listing all of my short comings. This really culminated today whilst in a middle of a test I withdrew before the final sector, I already knew I had failed, I had shown what I had thought of myself, inadequate. Why? purely because something went wrong, nothing horrific just not was needed. The truth, I was gutted, felt useless and wondered why I had bothered. Now, here is the important bit, just because it went wrong, does not mean you are worthless, it does not mean that you are useless. things will go wrong but half the time, by doing so, you will learn something. For me today, I was so focused on one small aspect it was not until feedback that I realised how much I got right. Yes, there it is, by focusing on a negative you can miss the bigger picture. Therefore, I think the reason for this post is that, when things go wrong be it anything try not to get down hearted but thing of the positive. This, I acknowledge is hard in a world driven by social media where perfection is played out but remember, things go wrong BUT things go right as well.So for everybody out there just remember, to have fun, and when things go wrong or you do not think you haven't done well enough or you have not passed your exams, by trying and persevering you are already improving and learning. For example, I will have another go at my exam because though one can say it went wrong, through doing it I now know how to make it right. So finally, if you ever feel things are going wrong, half the time, it is never as bad as we think.
01-03-2018, 01:00 AM
It's ok if things go wrong
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