I?ve been seeing this guy on/off for 12 years.Whenever we broke up for several weeks or months, we got back together, until last year when I saw him three times.I love him.He?s been legally separated for 18 years, children grown, but keeps helping his exes (giving a ride, fixing their houses).He?s never suggested we go on vacation together. He says he goes away alone.I now believe that some of our past arguments were deliberate, so he could have a break and hang out with his exes.I?ve celebrated some of his birthdays...