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01-10-2018, 05:42 PM
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There is a meme floating around social media that references how stressful it is to climb the corporate ladder, maintain a social life, have a relationship, have perfect brows, stay woke, learn the words to "Bodak Yellow," drink eight glasses of water daily, stay in shape (https://www.popsugar.com/fitness/Printable-Bodyweight-Workouts-35455496), and stay sane and happy in today's world. To that list I will add rock my natural hair (https://www.popsugar.com/beauty/How-Do-Updo-Natural-Hair-26251409), stay fashionable, and be the best mom to two boys (https://www.popsugar.com/moms/Being-Mom-Boys-38919866) in the age of YouTube, Donald Trump (https://www.popsugar.com/Donald-Trump), and constant social injustice.
While it is possible to do it all (https://www.popsugar.com/moms/Moms-Can-Have-All-43400549), it doesn't come without effort, sacrifice, and pushing past your comfort zone. Recently, I had an opportunity to listen to a retired female executive talk about her journey to success. The more she spoke, the more I realized that the appearance of having it all often masks actually having it all (https://www.popsugar.com/moms/How-Deal-Being-Overwhelmed-Mom-44186496). She stated that if she had to grade herself on her career, motherhood, and being a good wife, then she was unable to maintain all As in each category. There was a time when I would have given this woman a standing ovation for this comment, but I am in a place where I realize that I cannot meet unrealistic expectations. Has the grading scale been updated to reflect the demands of women in 2017?
How do you get an A in motherhood? What does that even mean? I am a working mother (https://www.popsugar.com/moms/Things-You-Shouldnt-Say-Working-Moms-34071010); if anything, I'm starting out of the blocks at a B- because I don't spend as much time with my children. On the flip side of that, do I get an A because I contribute to my household and can provide items like food, clothing, and enrichment activities for my children?
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After many, many years of stressing and worrying about how to excel in everything, I heard a message about walking in your "whatever." Life will throw so many things at you (https://www.popsugar.com/moms/Things-Moms-Do-Every-Day-44342309). The way you handle the situation positions you for your what's next. There will be challenges and obstacles at every phase; accept that, learn from it, and use it to prepare you for your next challenge, because there will always be another challenge.
My hairstylist told me I had damaged hair. I processed what she said with a straight face, walked into the bathroom, cried, and then told her to cut it all off. Whatever! I was in a job that made me so unhappy, so I updated my rأ©sum, interviewed, and started a new job. Whatever! I waited for years to take a trip, but no one wanted to go. I picked a date, purchased a flight, and went by myself. Whatever! I decided to stop letting life's challenges keep me from doing whatever it was I wanted or needed to do for myself to get to a better me.
Focusing on the solution, finding joy in the midst of chaos, and living without grading constraints has altered the course of my life. I am living a life focused on pursuing my happily ever after, in spite of everything being so much harder than it looks.
أكثر... (https://www.popsugar.com/moms/Why-You-Shouldnt-Grade-Yourself-Mom-44354815)
There is a meme floating around social media that references how stressful it is to climb the corporate ladder, maintain a social life, have a relationship, have perfect brows, stay woke, learn the words to "Bodak Yellow," drink eight glasses of water daily, stay in shape (https://www.popsugar.com/fitness/Printable-Bodyweight-Workouts-35455496), and stay sane and happy in today's world. To that list I will add rock my natural hair (https://www.popsugar.com/beauty/How-Do-Updo-Natural-Hair-26251409), stay fashionable, and be the best mom to two boys (https://www.popsugar.com/moms/Being-Mom-Boys-38919866) in the age of YouTube, Donald Trump (https://www.popsugar.com/Donald-Trump), and constant social injustice.
While it is possible to do it all (https://www.popsugar.com/moms/Moms-Can-Have-All-43400549), it doesn't come without effort, sacrifice, and pushing past your comfort zone. Recently, I had an opportunity to listen to a retired female executive talk about her journey to success. The more she spoke, the more I realized that the appearance of having it all often masks actually having it all (https://www.popsugar.com/moms/How-Deal-Being-Overwhelmed-Mom-44186496). She stated that if she had to grade herself on her career, motherhood, and being a good wife, then she was unable to maintain all As in each category. There was a time when I would have given this woman a standing ovation for this comment, but I am in a place where I realize that I cannot meet unrealistic expectations. Has the grading scale been updated to reflect the demands of women in 2017?
How do you get an A in motherhood? What does that even mean? I am a working mother (https://www.popsugar.com/moms/Things-You-Shouldnt-Say-Working-Moms-34071010); if anything, I'm starting out of the blocks at a B- because I don't spend as much time with my children. On the flip side of that, do I get an A because I contribute to my household and can provide items like food, clothing, and enrichment activities for my children?
Related
You'll Want to Frame This Mom's Too-True Post Explaining Why She's the "Keeper" in Her House (https://www.popsugar.com/moms/Mom-Post-I-am-Keeper-44055095)
After many, many years of stressing and worrying about how to excel in everything, I heard a message about walking in your "whatever." Life will throw so many things at you (https://www.popsugar.com/moms/Things-Moms-Do-Every-Day-44342309). The way you handle the situation positions you for your what's next. There will be challenges and obstacles at every phase; accept that, learn from it, and use it to prepare you for your next challenge, because there will always be another challenge.
My hairstylist told me I had damaged hair. I processed what she said with a straight face, walked into the bathroom, cried, and then told her to cut it all off. Whatever! I was in a job that made me so unhappy, so I updated my rأ©sum, interviewed, and started a new job. Whatever! I waited for years to take a trip, but no one wanted to go. I picked a date, purchased a flight, and went by myself. Whatever! I decided to stop letting life's challenges keep me from doing whatever it was I wanted or needed to do for myself to get to a better me.
Focusing on the solution, finding joy in the midst of chaos, and living without grading constraints has altered the course of my life. I am living a life focused on pursuing my happily ever after, in spite of everything being so much harder than it looks.
أكثر... (https://www.popsugar.com/moms/Why-You-Shouldnt-Grade-Yourself-Mom-44354815)