ahlam1399
07-01-2016, 09:37 AM
Am I intolerant?
Dear Guru,
I am a very opinionated 19-year-old. Actually, my problem is that I can ** longer relate to my two best friends I grew up with. There was a time when I was able to connect with them but **t any more. One of them turned into a completely different person because of which we began to fight a lot. She decided to limit interaction, which worked really well for us. She is leaving Pakistan this year and the friendship will soon be over forever.
The second one has grown up into a sort of a ‘dumb blonde’. She is very narrow-minded and has a pretty limited k**wledge level. She is prone to arguing with you without having any idea what she is talking about. Sometimes, her stupid arguments get on my nerves and I end up being mean to her. There’s also one more problem with her: she gets jealous real quick. **rmally, she’s a very sweet person, but if I win a medal or something, she tells a**ther mutual friend on whatsapp: “Vesay she didn’t really deserve it, lekin chalo I am happy for her.” Though she tries to be nice with me, I feel that her jealous nature and dumbness will be toxic for our friendship. Recently, we ended up fighting over something really trivial, and **w I have decided to end this friendship too in order to live peacefully.
Guru, tell me, am I intolerant? To me, having ‘best friends’ means being able to discuss things, share ideas and benefit from each other. You have to be compatible with me in order to be friends with me. Do I need to be more accepting or am I fine the way I am?
Intolerant Scorpion
Dear Intolerant Scorpion,
You are right; you are intolerant to the extent of being rigid. Dear, in life one meets all sorts of people and all of them have own ideas; you can**t expect everyone to agree with you. You need to be patient and accommodating in order to make friends or mingle with people. Even siblings, though they grow up in the same environment, tend to adopt different lifestyles when they become independent; but they don’t break the siblings’ bond. Similarly, you don’t break up with your childhood buddies just because you ** longer share the same views with them. Dear, if you want to survive in this world then you have to respect others’ views too. If you don’t want to be friends with your old buddies, it’s entirely your decision but then don’t blame them because they are different. The fault lies with you - **t with them. I suggest you rebuild your connection with them. Embrace their friendship open heartedly. You grew up with them and the main point is that they have been sincere with you. They did **t hurt or cheat you so why do you want to cut them off from your life? Rest is up to you. Good luck!
My father is over protective
Salaam Guru,
I really like the way you solve other people’s problems and I thought you could help me with mine. I am a 16-year-old boy, and I belong to an upper-middle class family. I have been playing an online game for three years **w. I have made many good friends through this game. I chat with them all day and even call them on weekly basis. My friends live in Karachi whereas I live in Peshawar. We have built a fantastic chemistry and **w I want to meet them. They have been asking me to come over and stay with them. The problem is that my father is way too over-protective. He rarely sends me out with my school friends so I k**w he will never send me that far all alone. Is there a way I can persuade him because I really want to meet my friends in person.
Game Boy
Dear Game Boy,
Of course your father is protective about you as you are only 16 and it is a very delicate age. He has to keep a vigilant eye to make sure you don’t get into trouble. I don’t think there is any way to persuade your father to allow you to travel on your own so far just to meet your online friends. It’s **t reasonable on your part to expect your father to allow you to travel all alone to a**ther city and that too to meet people he has never met before. So, don’t ask for something which is **t reasonable. Well, you can ask your father to take you to Karachi to meet your friends when he is free, and if he agrees you can meet your friends. Good luck!
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Dear Guru,
I am a very opinionated 19-year-old. Actually, my problem is that I can ** longer relate to my two best friends I grew up with. There was a time when I was able to connect with them but **t any more. One of them turned into a completely different person because of which we began to fight a lot. She decided to limit interaction, which worked really well for us. She is leaving Pakistan this year and the friendship will soon be over forever.
The second one has grown up into a sort of a ‘dumb blonde’. She is very narrow-minded and has a pretty limited k**wledge level. She is prone to arguing with you without having any idea what she is talking about. Sometimes, her stupid arguments get on my nerves and I end up being mean to her. There’s also one more problem with her: she gets jealous real quick. **rmally, she’s a very sweet person, but if I win a medal or something, she tells a**ther mutual friend on whatsapp: “Vesay she didn’t really deserve it, lekin chalo I am happy for her.” Though she tries to be nice with me, I feel that her jealous nature and dumbness will be toxic for our friendship. Recently, we ended up fighting over something really trivial, and **w I have decided to end this friendship too in order to live peacefully.
Guru, tell me, am I intolerant? To me, having ‘best friends’ means being able to discuss things, share ideas and benefit from each other. You have to be compatible with me in order to be friends with me. Do I need to be more accepting or am I fine the way I am?
Intolerant Scorpion
Dear Intolerant Scorpion,
You are right; you are intolerant to the extent of being rigid. Dear, in life one meets all sorts of people and all of them have own ideas; you can**t expect everyone to agree with you. You need to be patient and accommodating in order to make friends or mingle with people. Even siblings, though they grow up in the same environment, tend to adopt different lifestyles when they become independent; but they don’t break the siblings’ bond. Similarly, you don’t break up with your childhood buddies just because you ** longer share the same views with them. Dear, if you want to survive in this world then you have to respect others’ views too. If you don’t want to be friends with your old buddies, it’s entirely your decision but then don’t blame them because they are different. The fault lies with you - **t with them. I suggest you rebuild your connection with them. Embrace their friendship open heartedly. You grew up with them and the main point is that they have been sincere with you. They did **t hurt or cheat you so why do you want to cut them off from your life? Rest is up to you. Good luck!
My father is over protective
Salaam Guru,
I really like the way you solve other people’s problems and I thought you could help me with mine. I am a 16-year-old boy, and I belong to an upper-middle class family. I have been playing an online game for three years **w. I have made many good friends through this game. I chat with them all day and even call them on weekly basis. My friends live in Karachi whereas I live in Peshawar. We have built a fantastic chemistry and **w I want to meet them. They have been asking me to come over and stay with them. The problem is that my father is way too over-protective. He rarely sends me out with my school friends so I k**w he will never send me that far all alone. Is there a way I can persuade him because I really want to meet my friends in person.
Game Boy
Dear Game Boy,
Of course your father is protective about you as you are only 16 and it is a very delicate age. He has to keep a vigilant eye to make sure you don’t get into trouble. I don’t think there is any way to persuade your father to allow you to travel on your own so far just to meet your online friends. It’s **t reasonable on your part to expect your father to allow you to travel all alone to a**ther city and that too to meet people he has never met before. So, don’t ask for something which is **t reasonable. Well, you can ask your father to take you to Karachi to meet your friends when he is free, and if he agrees you can meet your friends. Good luck!
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