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12-20-2013, 10:35 PM
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The holidays at work can be jolly and festive, but they're also full of opportunities to inadvertently be the ****** Scrooge.
Here are eight common ways people alienate their coworkers at the holidays (http://money.usnews.com/money/blogs/outside-voices-careers/2012/11/21/the-top-10-holiday-aggravations-at-work).
1. Pushing people to contribute to an expensive gift for the boss. Gifts in a workplace should flow down, **t up, but too many stories abound about employees being pressured to contribute money for gifts for their managers. Often these gifts are pricey ones — more extravagant than what the employees will buy for those closer to them — which is especially inappropriate. Workers shouldn't have to return their hard-earned money to the people who hired them.
2. Insisting on k**wing why your coworker isn't bringing a date to the holiday party (http://money.usnews.com/money/careers/slideshows/the-dos-and-donts-of-surviving-the-holidays-at-work). Your coworker might be going through a divorce, a break-up, dating someone they don't think would enjoy attending someone else's ****** function, dating someone they're **t serious e**ugh about to bring along or **t dating anyone at all. Regardless of the reason, it's **ne of your business, and you will make people uncomfortable if you demand to k**w why they're coming solo.
3. Claiming all the good vacation days for next year before anyone else does. If your ****** approves vacation days (http://money.usnews.com/money/blogs/outside-voices-careers/2013/12/16/how-to-truly-unplug-during-your-vacation-and-leave-work-behind) on a first-come, first-served basis, you might technically have the right to claim all the most popular holidays in the upcoming year before anyone else does. But you can be sure that your coworkers **tice that you do this and resent you for it.
4. Giving a gift of ** value in the ****** gift exchange when everyone else is exchanging real gifts. You shouldn't feel obligated to participate in an ****** gift exchange, but if you choose to, you should ho**r its customs. If everyone else is exchanging nice trinkets, you should **t give a gag gift like a bag of coal or a box of sawdust (real gifts people have reported receiving). You might think it's funny, but you risk hurting the recipient's feelings or making them resent the work they put into picking out something more thoughtful.
5. Giving an extravagant gift that's well over the dollar limit set in your ******. If your ****** sets a dollar limit on gifts (http://money.usnews.com/money/blogs/outside-voices-careers/2012/11/28/10-rules-for-holiday-gift-giving-in-the-******), it's there for a reason. If you significantly exceed it — for instance, giving a cashmere sweater or an iPod when the gift limit was $15 — you'll make everyone else participating feel awkward.
6. Pressuring people who aren't merry e**ugh for you. Bugging people about why they're **t going to the holiday party or participating in Secret Santa — or worse, signing them up for Secret Santa without their permission — is a good way to alienate coworkers. Keep in mind that for every person who enjoys holiday rituals at work, there's at least one more who doesn't, especially at a time of year when budgets are often stretched thin and people don't want the ****** to become a**ther holiday expense.
7. Offending people of different religions than you. **t everyone celebrates the same holidays and even those who do might **t celebrate them in the same ways. Don't push people (http://money.usnews.com/money/blogs/outside-voices-careers/2012/11/07/10-things-never-to-say-to-your-co-workers) to celebrate in ways they're **t comfortable with.
8. Getting drunk at the ****** holiday party. While it might look an awful lot like a social function, the reality is that the ****** holiday party is still a business event. You're there to mingle with coworkers and higher-ups, **t to get drunk or otherwise act in a way that calls embarrassing attention to yourself. Raise your visibility by being smart and engaging, **t by being the person who slurs Christmas songs from the top of a table or passes out in the bathroom.
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The holidays at work can be jolly and festive, but they're also full of opportunities to inadvertently be the ****** Scrooge.
Here are eight common ways people alienate their coworkers at the holidays (http://money.usnews.com/money/blogs/outside-voices-careers/2012/11/21/the-top-10-holiday-aggravations-at-work).
1. Pushing people to contribute to an expensive gift for the boss. Gifts in a workplace should flow down, **t up, but too many stories abound about employees being pressured to contribute money for gifts for their managers. Often these gifts are pricey ones — more extravagant than what the employees will buy for those closer to them — which is especially inappropriate. Workers shouldn't have to return their hard-earned money to the people who hired them.
2. Insisting on k**wing why your coworker isn't bringing a date to the holiday party (http://money.usnews.com/money/careers/slideshows/the-dos-and-donts-of-surviving-the-holidays-at-work). Your coworker might be going through a divorce, a break-up, dating someone they don't think would enjoy attending someone else's ****** function, dating someone they're **t serious e**ugh about to bring along or **t dating anyone at all. Regardless of the reason, it's **ne of your business, and you will make people uncomfortable if you demand to k**w why they're coming solo.
3. Claiming all the good vacation days for next year before anyone else does. If your ****** approves vacation days (http://money.usnews.com/money/blogs/outside-voices-careers/2013/12/16/how-to-truly-unplug-during-your-vacation-and-leave-work-behind) on a first-come, first-served basis, you might technically have the right to claim all the most popular holidays in the upcoming year before anyone else does. But you can be sure that your coworkers **tice that you do this and resent you for it.
4. Giving a gift of ** value in the ****** gift exchange when everyone else is exchanging real gifts. You shouldn't feel obligated to participate in an ****** gift exchange, but if you choose to, you should ho**r its customs. If everyone else is exchanging nice trinkets, you should **t give a gag gift like a bag of coal or a box of sawdust (real gifts people have reported receiving). You might think it's funny, but you risk hurting the recipient's feelings or making them resent the work they put into picking out something more thoughtful.
5. Giving an extravagant gift that's well over the dollar limit set in your ******. If your ****** sets a dollar limit on gifts (http://money.usnews.com/money/blogs/outside-voices-careers/2012/11/28/10-rules-for-holiday-gift-giving-in-the-******), it's there for a reason. If you significantly exceed it — for instance, giving a cashmere sweater or an iPod when the gift limit was $15 — you'll make everyone else participating feel awkward.
6. Pressuring people who aren't merry e**ugh for you. Bugging people about why they're **t going to the holiday party or participating in Secret Santa — or worse, signing them up for Secret Santa without their permission — is a good way to alienate coworkers. Keep in mind that for every person who enjoys holiday rituals at work, there's at least one more who doesn't, especially at a time of year when budgets are often stretched thin and people don't want the ****** to become a**ther holiday expense.
7. Offending people of different religions than you. **t everyone celebrates the same holidays and even those who do might **t celebrate them in the same ways. Don't push people (http://money.usnews.com/money/blogs/outside-voices-careers/2012/11/07/10-things-never-to-say-to-your-co-workers) to celebrate in ways they're **t comfortable with.
8. Getting drunk at the ****** holiday party. While it might look an awful lot like a social function, the reality is that the ****** holiday party is still a business event. You're there to mingle with coworkers and higher-ups, **t to get drunk or otherwise act in a way that calls embarrassing attention to yourself. Raise your visibility by being smart and engaging, **t by being the person who slurs Christmas songs from the top of a table or passes out in the bathroom.
Join the conversation about this story » (http://www.businessinsider.com/an**ying-your-coworkers-2013-12#comments)
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